40 first-date questions that start real conversations
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Start lightly
Start with the here and now: “What made you laugh this week?”, “What does your perfect free Sunday look like?”, “What food could you eat every week?”, “Are you a planner or spontaneous?”, “Which series would you love to watch for the first time again?”, “What was your last really good day trip?”, “Sea, mountains or city?”, “What small thing improves your day?”
Discover personality
“What are you quietly proud of?”, “What could you explain for hours?”, “Which habit would you never want to lose?”, “What would friends call typical of you?”, “When do you feel most like yourself?”, “What did you recently learn?”, “Which decision changed your life for the better?”, “What does a good weekend mean to you?”
Dreams and the future
“Which trip is at the top of your list?”, “What would you do with a month off?”, “Which skill would you learn instantly?”, “Where would you live for a year?”, “What would you like to do more often in five years?”, “Which project have you postponed?”, “What does a really good home look like to you?”, “Which wish did you recently fulfil?”
Connection, values and humour
“What matters most to you in a friendship?”, “How do you show people you care?”, “What kind of humour always makes you laugh?”, “What is a perfect evening together?”, “When did you last feel truly understood?”, “What should a relationship never lack?”, “What tradition would you like to invent?”, “What is your most lovable quirk?”
Eight playful questions
“Which three things would you take to a desert island?”, “What would be your entrance song?”, “Which fictional character would you have dinner with?”, “What useless skill do you have?”, “What would your perfect themed evening be?”, “Which trend do you not understand at all?”, “If today were a holiday, what would we celebrate?”, “What would be our most spontaneous second date?”
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